Life would be boring without challenges, even if you wish for just a day without some type of complication. However, just because you face difficult times doesn’t mean you won’t overcome them.
It doesn’t matter whether you face challenges in your personal life, relationships, or career, it’s common to plunge into fight-or-flight mode and run in the opposite direction.
It’s normal to feel compelled to run from problems instead of dealing with them head-on, but the worst possible way to deal with challenges is to run; you have to face them. Here are some more constructive approaches to consider instead:
1. Accept Reality
You cannot control or change people. There are also things in life that you cannot control. You don’t need to understand why; what matters is that you accept the reality that you can’t change anyone. You might see this challenge and think it’s your job to change it, but that just isn’t the case. You are more likely to progress the situation if you are able to accept the reality of it and deal with the challenges accordingly.
2. Don’t Lay Blame
It’s easy to paint yourself as the victim and blame everyone else, but it is much more productive to take responsibility for the actions you take, the words you speak, and the decisions you make. When you blame others for your challenges, you disempower yourself and make the challenge more difficult to overcome. Don’t point fingers, problem solve.
3. Detach Yourself
It won’t be easy to do, but detach yourself from the outcome. This allows you to analyze a situation from a more objective standpoint. It’s difficult to make the right decisions when you are attached to a particular result.
For example, imagine that your challenge is the nerves you feel ahead of a public speaking appointment. How does this relate? You’re nervous and you are afraid of how people will react to you and your content.
The fact of the matter is that not everyone will appreciate what you have to say. That doesn’t matter – you can’t allow yourself to get worked up over that. Your job is to deliver the speech in the best way you can. The most efficient way to do so is to detach yourself from the situation.
4. Don’t Over-Analyze
Overthinking is the worst possible thing you can do in any challenging situation. When you allow yourself to think about it too much, you give doubt too much say. Over-analyzing in any situation makes it more difficult for you to accept the reality of it. You will just increase that little voice that’s whispering that something isn’t right. It’s going to take you away from reaching your goal and increase your frustration.
5. Embrace Change
Change happens all of the time, and challenges are a daily occurrence for so many people. No one really likes change, and while there are people who just get on with it, others can’t help but resist it at every turn. Often, the reason for this is that change forces people to live outside their comfort zone. You may be unhappy about change, but it’s not a permanent state and that’s what’s important to remember. You have to learn to accept change.
6. Resist Comparisons
Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing – don’t worry about how they overcome challenges. This will just result in more frustration and you will always feel like you’re second-best or worse. You are responsible for creating your own success; you write your story.
One of the biggest reactions to dealing with challenges is overreacting. If you don’t learn how to control your emotions, you will make decisions you later regret. Remember that when you next face a challenge.