We live in a busy world today. Who isn’t running around like a chicken with their head cut off? Leading a busy and stressful life turns many people into those that often talk before they think. Have you ever done this and then felt bad about it?
Unfortunately, this is a common trait for many people. Everyone wants to air their opinions and often butt in before the other person has finished speaking. The result of this is that it seems as though nobody is listening to each other anymore.
This lack of patience results in lack of judgement, being misunderstood, having a relationship go sour, offending your friends and family, and more. So what can you do to improve this?
The number one thing you can do to improve this situation is to simply slow down! That isn’t that hard to do now, is it?
If everyone was to slow down before responding to a conversation, there would surely be more happy people on this earth. Slowing down will help reduce stress levels and will allow you to become a better listener and overall communicator.
The next time you are listening to a conversation and feel like interrupting, don’t. Force yourself to allow the other person to finish talking first. In other words, get all the facts.
Once you have all the facts and information, take a little time before responding. Think about what you are going to say, and more importantly, how you are going to say it. You don’t want to offend anyone, and you don’t have to agree with them either. Just be careful in your choice of words as you don’t want to ruin any type of relationship.
If you find that you are getting pent up and stressed out by the conversation, try some relaxation techniques such as deep breathing. Or you may want to sit down. Don’t let your frustration show, and don’t answer back with a heated reply either.
You are showing the speaker respect when you allow them to finish speaking. Plus this also gives you time to truly think about your feelings and your reply. Focusing on your own feelings and controlling them is a sign of a good listener. You are putting their issues before your own.
The person speaking will also respect you for allowing them to vent their true feelings. Try to maintain as much eye contact as you can during the conversation. Then look them in the eye when it is your turn to talk.
Always remember that any conversation is a two way street; just give them right of way first.