Can you truly say that you put your family first all of the time? If you don’t, there is no need to feel guilty. Many people unintentionally let other things get in the way when they shouldn’t. All that it takes to start putting your family first is a shift in your priorities.
A great example of this is when you start to work crazy hours. While your objective may be to provide those “extras” for your family, it can end up in you neglecting them. So you may come home with gifts and new toys, but is that what your family really wants? They would probably prefer to spend more time with you instead.
The next time you are asked to work late or immediately offer to stay when overtime is offered, think about your reason why. Do you really need the extra money? Or do you get bored when you get home and would prefer to stay at work? Whatever the intention is, you need to look at your reasons and be honest with yourself. Staying away from home could indicate that there is a problem in your marriage that you don’t want to deal with.
One way to put your family first is by being there for them. When your son or daughter has a sports event or is in the school play, make of point of attending. If a family member gets sick, help them out as much as possible.
Creating stability within your family is a good way of putting your family first. Everyone loves to know that they have someone who they can count on. You can easily do this by creating family routines such as:
- Regular dinner times
- Chores for each family member
- Set bed times
- Movie night
Though these things may sound trivial, they are very important. By creating a structured routine, you are also setting expectations for your family. They know that they are expected for dinner at 6pm each day. Or that every Saturday they have to spend an hour or two helping out with chores.
When you, as the parent, put your family first, each family member will start to follow suit. In turn, this creates a caring family that will always be around for each other.
Family is important so don’t neglect what you have worked so hard to build. Yes, work and being social is important, but they shouldn’t always take precedence over your family.