Are you struggling in your current relationship? If so, one of the reasons could be because you do not listen to what your partner is saying. You may be in the habit of closing your ear the minute they start complaining about something.
If you truly want to save your relationship and have it last for years to come, improving your listening skills is one good way to achieve this. As you listen more, you will find that your relationship becomes more romantic and attentive.
Think back to when you first started dating. Isn’t this the kind of atmosphere you would like to recreate? You were eager to find out everything you could about your date, and you made sure you were listening. Bet that sounds familiar!
At some point in most relationships, there comes a point when you think you know each other well enough. This is when you may start taking each other for granted. You don’t go out of your way to be romantic, and you really only half listen when they start talking about certain things.
So if your relationship needs a little spark put back into it, start listening more closely. Listening also includes paying attention to things like body language. Sometimes words don’t convey true feelings. Remember the saying, “Actions speak louder than words”?
It isn’t hard to become a better listener. Just make up your mind that you are going to do this. Then the next time you have a conversation with your partner, summarize what they have said and repeat it back to them. This will show them that you have actually been paying attention.
Repeating parts of the conversation will also help them identify with what they have just said. If they were trying to explain a certain situation and you misread it, this will become clear to them. It gives them the chance to try and explain things in a different way. This brings up another issue. It may not be that you weren’t listening, it could be that the problem wasn’t explained clearly.
As we age, our relationships change. This is because we mature and we physically change. You may find that as you hit the 50+ age group, you now have to deal with health issues. These issues can affect your relationship. You may not be able to do certain activities together anymore. Instead of seeing this as a disadvantage, look for alternatives.
By listening to your partner, you will discover these changes without having to be told about them. This will do nothing but improve your relationship together.