If you find yourself constantly complaining, you must believe you have a real need to complain and your life isn’t where you would like it to be. If you don’t complain, you probably know someone who does and it makes everyone feel uncomfortable. They probably try to avoid that person as much as possible. Whether it’s you or someone else who is constantly complaining, what can be done to correct it and get back to positive living?
Complaining is a bad habit. A habit, whether good or bad, is an urge to adopt that action no matter what the consequences. The more you feed the habit the more it will take control of your life and the harder it is to kick.
Complaining typically stems from negative thoughts you’ve created. You realize you’re the cause of your thoughts so you blame yourself and vent it with complaining. Refuse to let those negative thoughts become you. We become what we think just like we become what we eat, drink, or do.
If we put good into our body and mind then good will come out. Conversely, if we put bad things into our body and mind such as drugs and negative thoughts then bad will come out. It’s inevitable and it’s up to you to correct. Negative thinking and complaining can be just as addictive as a drug. Whatever your mind is used to thinking, that’s what it learns to crave.
Admit you have negative thoughts and that you are their creator. Realize too that these thoughts lead only to more negativity and more addiction. You know what you’re doing but can’t help yourself until you admit to your problem and let it go.
Relax and let your negative thoughts disappear. It may take a while but it can be done, and when negative thinking is stopped so will your complaining. You didn’t become what you are overnight and you can’t expect to become what you desire overnight either. If that were the case we would all be perfect in mind and body. It’s a fight that can be won with constant dedication and awareness.
Don’t doubt yourself. Believe in yourself. We choose what we think and we choose what we are and can become. Accept responsibility for your actions and let it go. Then take positive steps to accept what needs to be done to achieve your goal. Dedicate yourself to getting it done.
This will disrupt your mind’s pattern of thinking and it will be easy to fall back into the old ways. Surround yourself with positive things and these will seep into your mind until they become you and your new habit is formed. Whatever was bad in your environment that caused you to complain, get rid of it. Each step toward a positive emotion gives you confidence to continue.
We all tend to blame others. Only politicians can do that and get away with it. If you don’t like the life you’re living or the thoughts you’re thinking then change it. Take responsibility and take control. Stop complaining today and discover a new you tomorrow.